Last updated on August 29th, 2020
If you are looking for the best places to meet girls in Jakarta and a dating guide then you have come to the right place. By the time you finish you will have all the info you need to accomplish whatever goals you may have.
This is a truly massive city, one of the biggest in the world, and if you are a tourist or expat it can be very overwhelming. You know there are a lot of single Jakarta girls out there, but you may not know the best places to try to pick them up.
You also know there have to be a lot of good date spots, but if you aren’t a local how are you supposed to know where to take any single ladies that you happen to meet? Both of those problems will easily be solved by the time you finish this guide.
We will start off with the best places to meet girls in the great singles nightlife you can find around town. Then the conversation will move on to day game, although day game might not be as easy here as in some other cities. Online dating is the quickest and easiest way to meet girls in this day and age so we will of course be covering that topic.
Table of Contents
Once we get through with talking about where to pick up girls the dating guide for Jakarta will begin. There are plenty of nice restaurants, bars, lounges, and day date ideas around the city. Although you always have to remember that the awful traffic here is a major factor so you must plan accordingly.
After we have covered all of that there will be a short guide for tourist and expats at the end. It will cover things like logistics, how to plan your stay, and even talk about the dating culture in Indonesia, understanding that will really help to improve your chances of hooking up.
Any locals out there may prefer reading this post in bahasa Indonesia at this link.
Nightclubs & Pick Up Bars
We always like to start off with the nightlife because we figure most guys who end up on this page through a search engine are looking for some good singles bars or nightclubs to pick up sexy Jakarta ladies of the night. There is definitely no lack of singles nightlife here, even if you may have heard otherwise.
Remember that we will be covering the logistics in greater detail at the end, but we are going to break this down into a few different sections. Pretty much all travel blogs out there will be telling you to stay in South or Central Jakarta and luckily the majority of clubs and singles bars are in these areas.
There are a couple of good nightclubs in North Kota but most of your options are condensed in the Southern half of the city. If your goal is to hook up with Jakarta girls that is definitely where you will want to stay. It will make it a lot easier to meet women from all over the city, including suburbs like Tangerang and Bekasi.
South Jakarta Pick Up Spots
There are plenty of nightclubs and singles bars to pick up girls in South Jakarta, currently some of the best are:
More Good Options In Central
In Central you are also going to find many good bars and clubs. This would probably be the most convenient area for you to stay, though we will get more into that later. To pick up some sexy ladies of the night you could visit these nightclubs:
We will do our best to keep up on the current scene but you might want to follow these links to make sure a spot is still open before you head over. We have removed Immigrant at Plaza Indonesia from the list as it also closed in February 2019. Expect a new club to open in its place shortly.
A couple of good (but expensive) rooftop lounges that are great for picking up hot women in Jakarta are Skye and Cloud. Then there are four good bars that would not only be good for picking up but also would make for great date spots:
Some specific areas in Central and South you can try to target are Mega Kuningan, SCBD, and along Sudirman.
Less Spots In North Kota
Up in the North Kota area there are a couple of good clubs, Colosseum probably being the most popular and Illigalz isn’t bad either. But if you are staying in the South or Central area you have many options which are just as good close by. There is also Crown located in Western Kota, this would be the most popular club that is close to Tangerang.
It does need to be pointed out that many of the bars and clubs listed here will have some ladies of the night who are ‘working’ if you catch our drift. While it can be very easy to hook up with girls for free here, there will also be some prostitutes out in the nightlife, and it isn’t always possible to tell who is who.
Meet Jakarta Girls During The Day
Day game is never easy, and in a conservative country like this one it may not even be worth your time. We will be covering this more in the dating culture section later, but the majority of the Jakarta girls you meet are going to be Muslim and very religious.
Most also will not speak any English, or if they do know a little bit they will have no confidence to actually have a conversation with a foreigner. In many ways this city looks and feels like Manila, it is huge, has bad traffic, dirty streets, and even the women will look relatively similar.
In the Philippines day game is great, the people are happy go lucky and you can walk up to any girl and have a decent chance of getting her number. Many speak English pretty well and many also love foreign men.
While plenty of Indonesian women also have an interest in dating foreign men they are much more shy and conservative. We are not saying that if you see a 9 walk by you during the day that you can’t make an attempt, just that you should not expect to have the same success with it here as you might in other Southeast Asian cities.
If you do want to give it a go try to meet girls in Jakarta malls, just like in the Philippines. Pretty much all of the best malls will be in the Central and South areas, and the nicest would be:
- Grand Indonesia
- Plaza Indonesia
- Senayan City
- Plaza Senayan
- Pacific Place
- Kota Kasablanca
- Lotte Shopping Avenue
Those would be the best spots for day game near the area where you are likely to stay. If you find yourself really far to the South head to Pondok Indah Mall, and if you are up North then Mall Kelapa Gading will be your best option.
Chat With Girls Online
Now to our last section of this guide on the where to meet Jakarta girls, online dating. In our previous section we were talking about how many of the women here are very shy and conservative, which is definitely a true statement.
It isn’t necessarily a Muslim thing, it is a religion thing. It doesn’t matter which one we are talking about, if high percentage of a population is strongly religious it will almost always mean that they are also very conservative.
But this city has over 20 million people, and when you are dealing with numbers that vast you don’t need a huge percentage to be looking to hook up. They may not show any skin when they walk around town, but behind closed doors when none of their friends or family are around things can change quickly.
Indonesian Cupid is the best dating site in the country and a very easy way to meet women in Jakarta who are interested in dating or hooking up. When foreign men sign up for an account there they can feel like a kid in a candy store at first, you will be shocked at how much attention you will get.
Take any of your Indonesian Cupid dates to the spots we mention next, be a gentleman, and you have a good chance of getting laid.
Best Date Spots In Jakarta
Now we are moving on to the dating guide, and much like with the day game options you really do not need to over think it when it comes to the best date spots in Jakarta. Look around, most of this city looks dirty and like it is falling apart.
Then you have massive shopping malls that are like palaces with air conditioning, nice restaurants, cafes, bars, and movie theaters. If you want to wine and dine a girl here bring her to a nice place, and the malls we listed above as pick up spots are also your best options.
They will all have many different dining options, and usually the top floors are filled with places to eat. If you wanted some specific Jakarta bars and restaurants for a date you can try:
- Social House in Grand Indonesia East Mall
- Cork & Screw in Plaza Indonesia and Pacific Place
- Awan Lounge
- Gia Restaurant & Bar
- Namaaz Dining
- Jetski Cafe
- Ruth’s Chris Steakhouse
Plus remember earlier we mentioned Basque and Captain Jack Sparrow’s plus a few more, or the rooftop lounges. Indonesian women also love to sing, take a Jakarta girl on a karaoke date and it will make for a very enjoyable night for them. No, we don’t mean the KTV’s with bar girls by Blok M, choose a more family friendly option like any of the numerous Happy Puppy KTV’s for your date.
If you wanted some day date options you could head up to Old Town (Kota Tua) in the Northern part of the city. This is a fun area with many different activities, cafes, and restaurants. Many girls would have gone there as a kid but may not have made it back for a few years, if you bring them there it could really brighten their day.
There are also amusement parks like Dufan or Atlantis Water Adventure, but don’t expect most girls here to where a skimpy bikini at the water park. More likely they will bring shorts and a t shirt, remember they are quite conservative by nature.
For a longer day date you could head to the Thousand Islands from Marina Ancol, though they take a few hours to get to. Or if you want a weekend getaway inviting Jakarta girls to Bali will almost assuredly get a reply of yes.
Indonesian Dating Culture
We touched on this already a few times but it really is important for you to understand the Indonesian dating culture and how that plays out in Jakarta. Around 80% of the population is Muslim, and while not all of them are extremely conservative most are.
They don’t drink, they don’t go out after dark, and they remain virgins until marriage. Add in the not speaking English well and feeling shy or ashamed to speak to westerners because of it and the dating culture here can be a bit hard to figure out.
But not all hope is lost, westerners are referred to by the locals as ‘bule’ and many of the women really like and are interested in bule. Some may just want to have a western friend to chat with, some may want to take selfies to show off on their Instagram, and other Jakarta girls will want to hook up with foreign men.
So how do you go about finding girls that aren’t as conservative? Nightlife and online dating will definitely be your best options.
Why is the singles nightlife so good here? Because if a girl is out in a bar or club late in the evening the odds of her being a very conservative and religious person are reduced drastically. We aren’t saying all the ladies of the night are sluts, but from a percentage standpoint you are going to have much higher odds in a club then doing day game.
And when using Indonesian Cupid it is also a lot easier to figure out who is who. You will never always know, but you can get a pretty good grasp on what is going on.
When you do try to date Jakarta girls don’t be overly aggressive or talk about sex. Be a gentleman, be respectful, speak slowly and with small words that they are likely to understand.
If your goal is to hook up then be a little more aggressive as the night goes on and invite them back to your place. If your goal is to find a long term relationship then go slower and show them you aren’t only interested in sex.
If you want a quick casual hook up you can find it here. If you want a long term relationship you can easily find that as well. Remember how earlier we mentioned that some of the nightclubs and bars will have prostitutes in them, well you may also encounter that when online dating too so keep that in mind as well.
Guide For Tourist & Expats
Now that we have fully covered the best places to meet girls in Jakarta and given a full dating guide lets also briefly do some quick travel talk to finish things off. In the majority of our guides we put addresses after each landmark to make it easier for you to find, but in this city we couldn’t really do that.
If you Google any of these spots you will notice the addresses are really long and hard to decipher. Don’t worry, all you need to do is download either Gojek or Grab which are the Indonesian equivalents to Uber.
You can order a car or motorbike taxi to pick you up at any time, and if you put in any of the spots listed here they will be marked by the GPS. It can be a bit difficult communicating with drivers, try to use the in app chat option and Google Translate if you are struggling. A phone call will never go well unless you speak the local language.
If your goal is to meet and date girls in Jakarta then book your hotel room in the South/Central area. We mentioned before that most of the best nightlife is located around Mega Kuningan, SCBD, and on Sudirman.
Try to stay somewhere inside the triangle between Grand Indonesia, Senayan City, and Kota Kasablanca. This is the nicest area of town where most of the nightlife is located, and plenty of date spots as well.
If you wanted to get some alcohol for your room any of the grocery stores on the bottom floor of the malls will sell beer and wine. Smaller markets around town are unlikely to have any, or if they have beer it might be non alcoholic.
Another important thing worth mentioning is that you may not want to visit during Ramadan which lasts for a month in May/June. Many bars will be closed, and many girls will not be able to meet you until it ends and if you are traveling through that means you won’t ever get a chance to get laid.
If you get sick of the traffic and want to try a smaller more laid back town Semarang can be a lot of fun for single men.
Enjoy Dating Jakarta Girls
That is all this dating guide has to offer. There are more than enough pick up bars to meet single women and date spots here then you will need.
Find a good hotel or apartment in the South/Central area, head to the bars, clubs, and malls nearby. Contact lots of girls on Indonesian Cupid and invite them to any of the spots we listed and if you put in the effort good things should come your way.
That wraps up our best places to meet Jakarta girls with a dating guide, hope you enjoy your time.